Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Sunday was exactly 3-1/2 months since Emily's accident. In 106 days Emily has never been angry or sad until today. During post-traumatic amnesia (PTA) a brain injury patient really doesn't create new memories, so they have no concept of time. Now that Emily has emerged from her PTA she's starting to grasp how long it's been, but she doesn't remember all of your love and support during that time. She can look around her room and see all of the birthday cards and we can talk about all of the wonderful things people have done for all of us since the accident, but she has no memories. That means, unfortunately, that except for those of you who have visited really recently, she doesn't remember seeing you and frankly that's what she's sad about - she misses her friends terribly and she's terrified at the prospect of not being able to go back to school right away in the fall.

I know this is a lot for the average teenager to deal with - but I also know that Emily's friends aren't average teenagers. We're really begging all of you to help her to know how much you've been thinking of her. Visitors are welcome Monday - Friday after 4:00 and we can make arrangements around lunch time if that works best. We will start posting a clear schedule for the weekends so you know where we'll be when - and please know you're always welcome at home if that's where we are. For some of you visiting one place or the other (Craig or home) is easier - let us know where and when and we'll be there. We're also more than happy to help with transportation - Ken and I would do almost anything to help put a smile on Emily's face. It's really, really not an imposition - just let us know you need a ride and we'll be there.

It's been a long road, but 30 days from today Emily comes home. That won't be the end of the road, but it will be the beginning of phase 4. With everyone's help and support all of us, especially Emily, will make it through this. Thanks.

3 comments:

Patricia Dubrava said...

I'm planning to go see Emily Monday evening around 4, July 23. I'd be happy to pick up someone who needs a ride. Let me know. Emily, I'll bring more Spanish poems, since that was fun last time. I've been waiting for that anger/depression to kick in: you wouldn't be progressing if that didn't show up. See you soon. So many of us think of you and check this blog every day, even if we don't call or visit.

Unknown said...

Barb and Ken,
Your clear grasp of the situation for Em--moving from the Eternal Now to the Uncertain Future--is a great gift to her. We are those "guardian angels"--folk who care, and think, and pray--but do not occupy the front-and-center of adolescent life. If it would be in Emily's best interests to know that such folk exist--in person--let us know. We'll come when you call!
Cheers,
Richard and Sigrid

Unknown said...

Emily!
Sydney and I think about you everyday. I guess we should be a little more active and come and visit you. With only a few more weeks of break..we need to get the ball rolling. However, if your mom and dad could let us know where to find you..WE WILL BE THERE...I am hoping Hannah will be there too....SO...I know Barb you are probably tired of telling people where to come...but I need a little help. Where is Craig? How do we find Emily and where? What are any restrictions we need to know about? Would a visit at the ice cream store be more fun than in the hospital room? HELP???? Love
Tanya Streicher